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Your Sacred Pelvis

The Woman Card

I am astounded to see that I have not written a blog post since March! Life is so full with a little one. I have REALLY been wanting to write since Birch’s birthday. And now I celebrate my own birthday a week ago and reflect on the year that has passed.

I hear so many women say, “As time passes, you forget about labor, you forget how hard and intense it was.” I have not forgotten. I worked on a woman today who was just on the verge of going into labor, and she asked me about my birth. All she had to do was ask that question, and I felt like it was yesterday. I could feel the contractions in my cells. I could feel how sometimes I felt like I had a handle on them and I could channel the whole universe through my body, and other times, they felt so intense and I could not align my breath the way I wanted to, and in those moments, I felt like, “This is it, this contraction is going to end me.” But it didn’t, because I hold, as my client called it, “The Woman Card.” No one can take your woman card.

My woman card in that moment of my life said that I am strong enough to be as raw and vulnerable as I have ever been. To soften into the rhythm of life. Motherhood has done that for me, it has softened me in a way I did not know I needed. Between losing most of my blood supply in birth and breaking my foot when Birch was two and a half months old (on my 33rd birthday) I have been humbled. I continue to be humbled, and I continue to soften into what is next, and open to deep trust.

I have more gray hairs now than I did. I found a tick on Birch when he was 19 days old. That was the moment I realized that though part of my journey on this planet is to be a steward and protector for this being who has chosen this earthwalk with me as his mama, I actually cannot protect him from all that I want to. It was one of the first moments (since birth, of course) I had to let go of control, because I had none. I have none. Only trust and faith. Trust that I can guide him and support him and teach him how to take care of himself in this crazy world. Faith that with all this love and support I give him, he will make good choices and be a good, loving person who does important things in the world.

When he was about a month old, I remember walking across the street in Northampton, and seeing one of the homeless people who is often out on the streets. This time seeing this person who I have seen so many times, I thought about him differently. I thought, “Where is his mother? Does she know he needs help? Did he ever get the mothering he needed?” And right there in the street, I started to cry, because I did not know if this man ever received the mothering he needed. And then I cried more for all of us who did not receive the mothering we needed. And then I felt deep gratitude that I am blessed enough to have the opportunity to give that mothering to this sacred being.

About Chaya Aronson

Chaya Leia Aronson, RN BSN is a bodyworker, health and sexuality coach, dancer, lover and mother. Chaya believes that we source our creative, life force expression through our pelvic bowls and if the energy is blocked here, it greatly affects our capacity to be our full authentic selves in the world. Her passion is to support pelvic and abdominal health and healing. The main forms of bodywork she practices are the Arvigo Techniques of Maya Abdominal Therapy® and Holistic Pelvic Care™. Bellydance, contact improvisation and yoga have been the central core of her spiritual and physical practice for over 20 years. She weaves the knowledge she’s gained about movement patterns and body structure with her playful and intuitive spirit to support her clients in actively healing their own bodies and spirits.