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Musings on women's health, sexuality, and empowerment.
Two nights ago, I started having intense lumbar back pain. I could not comfortably sit, stand or lie down. My body was an uncomfortable place to be. Yesterday, I worked through it, like I usually do with pain. Then for today, three of my four clients cancelled. That is a rarity, so I cancelled the…
Read MoreHerstory of Pleasure As early as the late 1800s, it was medically recommended to vibrate a woman’s vagina to relieve hysteria. Women could go to the doctor to receive this “treatment”. Symptoms of hysteria included depression, insomnia, lack of sex drive, too much sex drive (f*ck that) and “extreme” emotions. Herstorically, one of the cures…
Read MoreI have been a practitioner of Maya Abdominal Massage for 10 years now. I have offered vaginal steams in my office for most of that time. I have witnessed extraordinary results and great benefits. It has come to my attention that Aviva Romm, who I greatly respect, wrote an article denouncing the validity, safety and…
Read MoreTo all the men who think I am too pushy. Consider what it’s like to be a woman right now. When abortion laws are being challenged. When every unwanted pregnancy is due to male ejaculation, but women bear the brunt. To be a mother right now. To have shed your own life blood to give…
Read MoreMy friend made this for me for my birthday this year. He told the story of how he made it. It involved a lot of hammering. He shared that while he hammered, he focused on my pleasure. What a gift from a sweet friend. I love the asymmetry as an expression of our humanness and…
Read MoreMy good and very talented photographer friend Peter Paradise Michaels found this photo in his archives the other day and sent it to me. It was taken about 10 years ago. As I enter my birth month, and the last year of my 30s, It has brought me to reflect on how much this body has…
Read MoreAs a culture we are slowly working to unravel this patriarchy. To do this, we must shed light upon our societal perspective on women’s desire. Notes about this post: Much of the language here engages the gender binary and heteronormative culture. I write about this topic from this perspective, because it still is the dominant…
Read MoreToday is one of those days. Not the kind when I gave great advice to a client to have more orgasms. It’s the kind when Birch wakes up and just wants to play the “Mama is hungry should she eat Birch’s belly or cheeks” game and cuddle and wrestle. I do that as long…
Read MoreFear and Anger, those two friends, one on each shoulder ever since I can remember. It’s not like one is the angel and one is the devil. It’s like both are both. And it is my job to discern when to let one of them drive the bus for a minute and when it is…
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