The last few weeks, we have begun our journey with Elimination Communication. We have a little potty for our little man, and we pay attention to his signals that he has to go to the bathroom. We respond by putting him on his potty and cueing him with sounds. When we think we has to pee, we say, “Pss, pss, pss” and when he has to poop, we grunt with him. He responds to our grunts by grunting, which shows us his ability to mimic, and its quite adorable. You can learn more about positions and cueing by reading any one of a number of books about Elimination Communication. I read and loved Diaper Free: The Wisdom of Natural Infant Hygiene by Ingrid Bauer.
The biggest piece for me, is letting go of my attachment to perfection, and not judging myself for missing his cues when I do. The power of EC is in the communication, and feeling the mutual gratification, parent and baby, of understanding each other. I see that our baby appreciates us paying attention to when he has to go to the bathroom so that he does not have to sit in his “stuff”. I am sure there is poetry in how our infancy translates into our adulthood. What does it do to us to wear the disposable diapers that can hold 30 times their weight in liquid for hours at a time? There is the poetic aspect and then the very real aspect, that we find chemicals from these disposable diapers in baby’s urine, which means we are asking infant’s kidneys to process foreign matter.
How many of us have changed a diaper, and said something like, “What a mess?!” This teaches our children at a young age to have shame around their bodily functions. Because that pattern has been ingrained in me from childhood, I have been retraining myself, to say things like, “Wow, your body works so well!” Then he smiles and we both feel joyful. He made a big one without warning in his diaper the other day. I brought him to the changing table and opened the diaper, and was authentically surprised by how much a little guy could produce in a shot, so I exclaimed, “Wow, Little Man!!” and looked at him, he laughed, as if with pride! How beautiful to cultivate a relationship that helps my Sun feel proud of his bodily functions!